Saturday, January 29, 2011

MY EVER EVOLVING ICICLE: Caregiver Day Off

HANGING IN THERE

I don't know what it is that has captivated me about my icicle. They are all over the place in my town just now, melting, refreezing, turning ugly, dripping, refreezing...ever evolving.

But my icicle is right outside my door and it draws me to it as I rush from here or to there.  This has been an incredibly busy week for both Bill and I. I believe I won out in the the doctor appointments this week, but it is over and like our personal icicle that greets us as we return home, we are both hanging in. 

Today is Saturday and we decided in our bedtime chat last night to take today off. From everything. Caregiver Day Off, Brain Injury Day Off. No medical talk, no seizures, no other issues that could draw us out into the world of Living with Brain Injury.

What are we going to do with this day? First, practice not focusing on our problems. Then watching Toy Story 3, and laughing a bit. With Bill now diagnosed with diabetes, and me pre-diabetes, there will be no candy snacks, no ice cream snacks, and no popcorn.  I have some other things planned for snacks. Low fat Whole Grain Graham Crackers with Cinnamon, some carrot sticks, and strawberry cheesecake yogurt.  Both are on the OK snack list, and you know you just have to have a snack during a movie.  I have the five hour stew in the crock pot prepared for dinner.
My counselor said something very interesting to me yesterday. You are always waiting for the other shoe to drop. And it will. I like to believe things are going to get better from here health wise. I know I have really not recovered from the past hospital stay that Bill had in ICU in October. That was a long three weeks for both of us, and he is getting stronger everyday.  I am still catching up. 

Like most people who use denial as a defense against things they cannot or will not handle, I have willfully denied that today will be anything but blissful.  If reality sets in and we have to deal with it, we will. Until then, it is Date Day.  Off to the movies with my date. Please enjoy the pictures of the icicle as it changes, from sunrise to sunset to night. 

Like each of us, one day it will be gone and I will miss it. Thank you once again for joining us on our journey. I urge each of you caregivers to take a day off now and then, and if you can get the one you love and care for to hang out with you, better yet!

If you click on this photo I took the other night and enlarge it, you will see the translucent quaility that so captives me.
Photos by Ginger Bristow Gaitor

5 comments:

  1. Well you do need to take care of your health, but they do have sweet snacks for diabetics too, just need to look. Everything in moderation, so it should be ok once in a while to enjoy your ice cream, etc..Love the idea of taking a day off of everything, except enjoying your free time together. You'll treasure those memories most:)

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  2. I love the pictures. I talked to my cousin in PA today and she mentioned that she was also enjoying the icecles on her house. I will forward this to her. I need your expertise to take pictures for me. The one's we took a few weeks ago at the mt. house are not nearly as good. Then yesterday I came upon a cool "visual" but knew my phone wouldn't capture it and not even sure our camera would. It was a very foggy morning. When I took the rv park mail out to put in the box there was a small spider web from the top to the handle of the door. Each strand was covered with tiny droplets of water. It looked like beautiful lace. I've seen pictures of this before but never face to face. Enjoy your day today. Even us non caregivers should do this with our loves once in a while. J

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  3. Ginger and Bill,

    Enjoy your day at the movies, holding hands, snuggling.

    Your icicle is mesmerizing.

    God Bless,

    Sue

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  5. I will keep an eye on that icicle! Snow and Ice- creations that are like poetry..Instead of thought and emotion crystalized into words, they are concentrated-mysteries of nature- Wordless and endlessly profound.

    When I was a child, I had a fantasy that the sparkling coarser snow crystals under the icicles of our house were beautiful gems in a cave..

    I felt so rich! Thanks for the wonderful thoughts and life stories you share.

    PS..Check out Wilson Bentley- the snowflake man..His biography and the museum in Jericho , Vt. are very inspiring.

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